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Questions to ask your pen pal
50 questions
Getting started
1What made you want to find a pen pal?
2What does a typical day look like for you?
3What is one thing that is unique about where you live?
4What language are you most comfortable writing in, and why?
5What do you hope to get out of having a pen pal?
6What is something people from outside your country often misunderstand about it?
7How would you describe your city to someone who has never heard of it?
8What is one local food you would want your pen pal to try?
9What does your weekend typically look like?
10What is one tradition or holiday that is important to you?
Going deeper
1What is something you are genuinely curious about right now?
2What book, film, or song has stayed with you the longest, and why?
3Is there something you believe that most people around you do not?
4What is a question you ask yourself often?
5What does home mean to you, a place, a feeling, or something else?
6What is the most useful thing you have learned in the last year?
7What do you think your generation does better than others?
8What is something your culture taught you that you have since questioned?
9What would you change about the place you grew up, if you could?
10What is the best piece of advice you have ever received?
Language and culture
1Is there a word in your language that has no good English translation?
2What is something that gets lost in translation when people talk about your culture?
3Do you think in your native language, a second language, or both?
4What slang or phrase is popular where you live right now?
5Is there a phrase in your language that you use all the time but find hard to explain?
6What language would you most like to learn, and why?
7How do you feel when you speak or write in a language other than your first?
8What is something that sounds rude in your language but is perfectly normal elsewhere?
9What is the funniest mistranslation or language mistake you have experienced?
10How has knowing more than one language changed how you think?
Dreams and the future
1If you could live anywhere for one year, where would you choose?
2What is one thing you want to do in the next five years?
3Is there a skill you have always wanted to learn?
4What does success mean to you, outside of money or status?
5If you could send a letter to your past self, what is the one thing you would say?
6What is a dream you have held for a long time but not yet acted on?
7What does the ideal version of your daily life look like?
8If you had a free year with no obligations, what would you do with it?
9What kind of person do you want to be ten years from now?
10What is something the world needs more of?
Light and fun
1What is your most embarrassing talent?
2What is the strangest thing you have ever eaten?
3What is a film or TV show you would recommend to anyone?
4What is the most interesting place you have ever been?
5If you could have a conversation with any person from history, who would you choose?
6What is something small that makes you genuinely happy?
7What is the best gift you have ever given or received?
8What is a local legend or story from where you live?
9What is something you are irrationally proud of?
10What is the most adventurous thing you have ever done?
Tips
Tips for using these questions
1
Pick one or two questions per letter rather than asking all at once, a focused letter is easier to reply to.
2
Share your own answer to the question as well. It makes the exchange feel mutual, not like an interview.
3
Follow up on what your pen pal wrote in their last letter before introducing a new question.
4
If a question does not feel right for your pen pal, skip it. The best correspondence follows natural curiosity.